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Bondage Sex Guide

Sex and being tied up at the same time, that's what many people want to try since Fifty Shades of Grey. Here we show you ideas, tips, and instructions for successful bondage sex as a tutorial.

Anal Sex tied up with ballstretcher

This position is ideal for anal sex in your bed. The passive guy is suitable tied to the bed. This bondage sex is particularly nasty: A ballstretcher is connected to the lower edge of the bed. If the active person now turns to sex, starts fucking and the passive person pulls your ass away, it pulls violently on the testicles of the passive person (through the ballstretcher). When he pushes the anus towards the active, the pull on the ballstretcher slackens. Practical for the active, because the passive does not constantly pull his butt away. Here are the instructions for the bondage sex in detail. Follow the instructions step by step to enjoy anal bondage sex.

Analsex gefesselt mit Ballstretcher

Insert butt plug: Before it even starts, the passive partner inserts a butt plug anally. Some lube helps here. The buttplug is helpful for the later anal sex and stretches the anus until the bondage is finished.
Put on ballstretcher / parachute: Afterwards either the parachute is put around the testicles or the ballstretcher with hook is put on. The sense of this is to pull the testicles slightly later, in case the passive should pull his pelvis away during the later anal sex. A rope is not yet attached to the ballstretcher/testicle parachute in this step.
Prepare the bed with ropes: Attach a 1m rope each to the head and foot edge in the middle. If you have a bondage bed, you surely already have suitable hooks. If you have a box spring bed, you can simply attach the ropes to the slatted frame and then put the mattress back on. Then the ropes guide the edges of the bed. Additionally, attach one rope each to the lower corners of the bed.
Lie on the bed with your stomach: Lay a large towel over the bed on the pillow. Alternatively, you could also use a washable sex pad. Now the passive lies down on the bed with the belly resting on it.
Tie your feet to the corners of the bed: Now connect the ropes from the lower corners with your feet (ankles) or put on ankle cuffs and connect them to the corners of the bed. A snap hook can help here. The legs will be spread properly.
Tie your hands behind your back: Now use the 2m rope. The arms are crossed behind the back and you put the rope around the forearms several times. The end of the rope is wrapped around the loops again and then fixed with a figure-of-eight knot. The passive can now no longer use his hands. Alternatively, you can use a backstrap, which is usually combined with a neck cuff, or you can use two handcuffs.
Fix the arms: Now connect the bound hands with the rope of the upper edge of the bed. Now the passive can no longer slip. If you want to use a gag, you can put it on now at the latest. Sneaker fetishists can also hold a sneaker in front of their nose and fix it there. If you are using bondage gloves, you can put them on the bound person now at the latest.
Fix the parachute / ballstretcher: Fasten the last rope to the hooks of the ballstretcher or parachute and pull the rope so far down towards the edge of the bed that the testicles are slightly stretched. Then knot the rope to the rope that still protrudes from the edge of the bed. A pull should now arise on the testicles. If the passive later moves upwards, the pull on the testicles will be increased further.
Remove butt plug: Pull the butt plug carefully out of the anus of the passive. The sphincter muscle is now already pre-stretched so that you do not need much preparation for anal stretching.
Enjoy anal sex: Now everything is ready for the bondage sex and you can enjoy the anal. Put on a condom, apply lubricant, and fuck.

For this bondage sex tutorial you need at least the following equipment:

Bondage ropes:
4x 1m, 1x 2m or
4x 1m with ankle cuffs and 1x 2m or
2x 1m, back cuff straps with collar and ankle cuffs
Parachute or ballstretcher with a hook to connect to the rope
Buttplug for pre-stretching

Optional equipment:

When you have all the toys ready, the bondage sex session can begin. Prepare everything you need for the bondage sex in advance. Think also about the lubricant and condoms for anal sex.

More ideas for Bondage Sex

If you like, you can stimulate the penis of the passive guy from time to time. While anally penetrating, grasp the sides of the passive's pelvis so that you can reach the penis. Then you can stimulate it a little. However, make sure that the passive doesn't cum first. This should be the master's privilege. Whether you inject into the condom or pull the penis out of the anus just before coming to cum on the passive from the outside is up to you. If the active person wants to delay his orgasm, he can also simply use a dildo and further stimulate the passive one. In this way you avoid the sphincter muscle closing too fast again during a sex break.

The passive can also wear a latex suit or other fetish clothing for bondage sex. It is important here that the testicles and the anus are freely accessible. The zipper should remain open in this area. The fetish clothing must be put on before bondage. The active guy can wear what he wants. Only his penis must be free when anal sex starts. Up to this point, he can also remain dressed.

The position for bondage sex can also be used for spanking with a paddle as foreplay. This can be done for example at the place where the butt plug is still in, just before anal sex.

A chastity belt makes bondage sex even nastier because that way the passive can't get an erection. Depending on your experience you can choose this increase.

Then what?

The bondage sex does not necessarily have to be done after the anal sex either. A session is often handled in such a way that the active master is cumming more often during a session and the submissive passive partner only cums at the very end. He is sexually stimulated again and again without being led to orgasm. This technique is called CumControl (orgasm control) and can be performed over several hours.

More Bondage Sex Ideas

Bondage anal sex with gag and nipple clamps

Do you want more inspiration? Then the sub should lie with his back on the bed during bondage sex.

Cuffs are placed at the wrists and ankles. You knot a 2m rope to each of the wrist cuffs. This is led through the corners of the upper bed pillars.
Then the sub must bend his legs and the 2m ropes are led through the D-ring of the cuffs. The ends of the ropes that go through the D-rings could now be fitted with snap hooks so that you can reach the nipples with them.
Now it's time to put the gag on the sub.
And now comes the nasty Japanese nipple clamps, each with a ring to attach it.
What follows is easy: Just connect the carabiners of the rope ends with the respective rings of the nipple clamps.
Enjoy nasty anal sex.

Here's what's nasty about the bondage sex position: The rope is under tension. If the sub wants to move his hands towards the nipple clamps, he automatically pulls on the clamps. This also happens when he wants to stretch his feet towards the sub again. When in doubt, the clamps slip off the nipple clamps. A nasty pain of lust.

Besides you can put another rope around your waist and connect it to the two lower bedposts. This will prevent the sub from sliding up during anal sex. This loosens the pull and it is not so much fun anymore. Alternatively, you can also put a harness on the body of the sub and fix additional ropes to it and connect it to the lower edge of the bed. Then the sub stays in its desired position.

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